Am I Doing the Right Thing? Feeling Lost in Grad School

Hey everyone! Today’s post is going to be a little shorter than usual, I think. I just wanted to write about something that I have been dealing with a lot and one method to help calm my overactive mind. Grad school has me lost. I honestly don’t know what I want to do after graduation, and you know what? I am totally alright with that. I realized that life is constantly changing and it is totally ok not to know what to do next.

One thing that really has me a bit concerned, well not now, but at first, was seeing all of my friends getting jobs, making good money. I make enough to feed my cat, and that’s good enough for me lol. But I did notice that they weren’t that happy. I was quite perplexed until i heard about a little activity you can do to kind of see if maybe you are doing what you love, or close to it. The exercise is imagining you are talking with your 10 year old self. Describe what you do for a living to them. See how your 10 year old self reacts. Are they proud of you? Are they concerned? Do they look angry? Just try and picture this.

I did this exercise and realized that what I do now, I truly believe 10 year old Ben would have thought was the coolest thing ever. I do science, math, workout, all of that. 10 year old Ben loved all of those things. This really helped me realize that I am not lost at all, I am right where I need to be at the this time in my life.

Life is constantly changing and so are you. You will find your place eventually, then one day, what you thought was the right thing for you will change and you’ll find another road to take. I find this to be the most exciting part of life, the change. I wonder what 40 year old Ben will be like!

**If you or someone you know is suffering from mental health issues, I highly recommend that they seek help. Online-Therapy.com or TalkSpace.com are great ways to reach out to a licensed therapist and get the help needed. Therapy has 100% helped me and I know it can help you.

6 thoughts on “Am I Doing the Right Thing? Feeling Lost in Grad School

  • This is great! One of the great advantages of being older (I am 72) is that over the years you learn when you are on the right path and when you are not. You are learning early how to arrive at this knowledge. Excellent!

  • True, one should not rush into a job nor should stay working in a toxic environment. You have a long life ahead, use the next few years to find what you are passionate about. This is the age to try out whatever the mind feels and be creative because age and energy is with you.
    Keep going, you will find your purpose.
    Till you find your purpose, work to sustain.
    Stay blessed always
    🙏🌹🙏

  • Keep it up buddy. Grad school is tough, been through it, but you’ll look back on it and be happy you did it. It’s worth all the frustrations,suffering and temporary low pay. 👨🏽‍🔬👨🏽‍🔬👨🏽‍🔬

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